The Power of Saying “No”

I have just started to discover the power of saying “no” and it already amazes me. If you’re one of those people who have a hard time saying this little powerful word, I want to encourage you to try.

It all started a few months ago when I realized that I can’t continue doing as much work as always if I want my business to succeed. I needed to prioritize and start saying “no” to new projects, offers, and propositions that were not connected with my business.

Then, I realized I need to start saying “no” to certain desires: to spend extra money for unnecessary stuff, to sleep an extra hour, to postpone exercise.

Saying “no” when it’s very tempting to say “yes” is all about discipline and priorities. It’s about strong will and consistency.

I am still learning this skill.¬†What about you? Is it easy for you to say “no”?


What Keeps You Going?

Do you have a mantra that you repeat in different challenging situations to motivate yourself? For example, in running and in business I use the same mantra – one foot in front of another, one step at a time, one foot in front of another, one step at a time.

When I get too tired and want to quit running, that’s what helps me continue. When the business is tough, too much work and too many unanswered questions – that’s what I say to myself. One step at a time, just keep going!

What’s your mantra? In what situations do you use it? Please, share in the comments.


How I decided to be a Mentalist – 6

optical illusion 10On my journey to Mentalism I came across a stumbling block. PRIDE – it is called. It’s blinding and deafening, making us lose focus and stop hearing inner voice that speaks common sense.

More than a week ago I tried several techniques of mind control and it amazed me how easily it worked. It appears we all can do it. We can control pain, we can use our mind to control our bodies, we can overcome the fatigue.

The first thing that I tried was simple pain from eye-brow plucking. It can very painful if somebody else is doing it for you, so I decided to use my imagination as stated in some of the sources on mentalism. I imagined that it wasn’t my own skin, it was a cover on my face that she was plucking. And it worked! I didn’t feel anything. Not true, I could feel that she was doing something, but not pain, as if I had a shot of anesthesia.

Then, few days later, I went on my training run (I am training for a marathon) and decided to try imagination and mind work again. Usually in the middle of the run I get so tired that there’s no desire to run anymore, I slow down and the rest of it is no fun. This time I decided to imagine I was on a bike, my legs weren’t running on the ground, I was just pedaling and sitting on a comfy bike seat. The next moment my breathing changed, it calmed down and I started running faster and easier. It was amazing!! Unbelievable! The rest of my run was pretty easy and I even had to hold back from speeding up. Not enough, apparently!

The next week was eye-opening. I was too amazed, proud and arrogant to realize that my mind games got me too excited. I had increased my mileage and speed too soon, which led to several health issues. Now, my doctor doesn’t allow my to increase intensity of physical activity.

It didn’t discourage me to continue my journey of a Mentalist newbie but helped to be more careful. From now on, I will keep in mind that our body is very complex as is our brain. So, it’s dangerous to play games with it and imagination can lead to unwanted results. Pain is a necessary mechanism that tells us something is wrong – pay attention. Fatigue is important to let us know we should stop or slow down and rest. Ignoring those signals could lead to disaster.

How I decided to be a Mentalist – 5

optical illusion 11Another interesting ability of Mentalists is controlling our body with our mind. That is extremely fascinating to me! Not that long ago I started reading a lot about human brain and different abilities that are not generally used although are pretty easy if you start looking into them.

Here’s a tip – next time you experience minor pain, try to control it with your mind. The thing is – our brain gives commands to our body to experience one or another feeling, therefore we can learn how to manipulate our brain and tell ourselves that this is not the pain we’re experiencing, but simply some discomfort.

I am speaking from my own experience. Every time I have my eye-brows plucked – it’s a painful experience. Although a few months ago, I started controlling this pain with my mind. The trick is simple – I imagine that it’s not my skin she is working with but a piece of fabric and it’s detached from my body, therefore I can’t experience pain. And it works. Another example is long distance running. I run marathons and usually there’s a point when all I want to do is lie down on the ground and die. However, as soon as I tell myself – this is ridiculous, you can do it, you’ve done this before; as soon as I convince my mind that I can and want to continue, my mind gives that command to my body.

Here’s an interesting and very practical article about controlling our body.

There’s so much to be told on this matter, but I will continue next time. Try some of these tricks and look for many more.

Our Mind is a powerful tool that God has given us!