How to Enjoy Valentine’s Day When You’re Single

pexels-photo-776636Frankly speaking, Valentine’s Day is just an excuse for me to raise this topic. And believe me, I have all the rights to speak about this because I’m single and I know how to enjoy not just Valentine’s Day but every day of my life.

Today I saw a post on Facebook which reminded me how many people connect their happiness in life with having romantic love. I agree with you, it’s absolutely crucial to love and be loved. However, do I have to remind you there are four types of love?

In the Greek language there’re actually four different words which mean ‘love’: agape, storge, fileo and eros. And only the last one is used to describe romantic love. So, why are there so many people who feel empty, unhappy and depressed only because they’re single? They lack eros, but there are so many opportunities to show other types of love to those around them.

Somebody wise said: “If you want to be loved, love.” Then somebody else said: “If you want to have friends, be friendly.” And finally we come to a conclusion: If you want to be happy, be. Leo Tolstoy said this last one, if I remember right.

So, it’s all in your hands. And here’re a few ideas how to enjoy Valentine’s Day and every day of your life even if/while you’re single.

It’s temporary

Remember that this period of your life is temporary and you need to make the best of it. Use this opportunity to travel, study, grow personally and professionally, read as much as possible, meet with friends more often. This awesome time won’t last forever! Use every moment of it. If you have kids, spend more time with them because as soon as you meet somebody, there will be much less time for that.

It’s Freedom!

Appreciate the advantages that this time gives you. You don’t have to consult with anybody and you can make all your decisions by yourself. Nobody will nag you or criticise you or say – I told you so if the decision turns out to be the bad one. You’re free to do whatever you want whenever you want. Just use your freedom wisely!

Give love

We, human beings, are selfish in our nature, and our first desire is of course to be loved, feel appreciated and cared for. However, if you try to focus on giving love, your heart will be filled up to the top and love will pour out of it to those who need it the most.

It is such an amazing feeling to have your heart filled with love so much that it almost seems like it will explode.

Open up for love

Unfortunately, a lot of people tend to build high walls around their heart after they go through one or more painful experiences in their life. This is a natural way of defending your emotional health, but it leads to more pain, regrets and disappointment. It kills all future opportunities and leaves you sad and bitter.

Open up for new relationships, new love and new incredible encounters. Life is unpredictable, exciting and full of adventure. Hellen Keller said: “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

So, make the most of your life. Don’t waste any moment of it being frustrated or depressed. There’s so much more to our life than romantic love. Friendship can actually be a much bigger gift to you. Just learn to appreciate everything you have! And stop whining! 🙂

I love you guys and will appreciate your thoughts on this topic! Please, comment below, like and share if this post was of any interest or help to you.

 

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Do You Still Rush while Traveling?

img_5136Sometimes I have a bad habit when traveling to new places. I run around trying to capture everything on my iPhone camera which is far from perfect. The desire to save this moment of beauty for future enjoyment is inspired by the magnificence of the view. Although, what I don’t realize it might be worth it to just stop and take in all the exquisiteness I’m surrounded with.

Perhaps, if I remember to enjoy every possible moment, the imprint of it in my memory would be much brighter than the photo. Don’t take me wrong, I admire photographers and their amazing ability to see the world. It’s my own way of rushing through life and its beauty that I sometimes regret.

Not that long ago I came back from the trip to Europe. We visited 5 countries in 10 days and got to see a lot of fascinating places. Unfortunately, I had to limit the number of excursion I went to due to the amount of work that had to be done while being on the trip.  However, it turned out to be a great blessing for me.

I had a chance to take a break from all the sightseeing, go sit at a cafe and enjoy my quiet computer work while observing people around me. My first such experience was in Prague.

jan HusHave you ever been to Prague? The Old Town Square and Charles Bridge create the illusion of being in a fairy-tale. The old astronomical clock is right there, around the corner playing its music every hour. The statue of Jan Hus impresses you with its seriousness and grandeur.

Two in Prague

A group of students gathered in the middle of the square deciding what to do next. Two young men found a place on the ground and placed their beer and food between them on the curb. Their relaxed postures exude freedom and independence.

Then we were in Strasbourg, France. We had a few hours in the city, and I was lucky to find a nice little cafe outside with chairs facing a picturesque bridge. Two young women probably in their 30s were having a glass of wine at a café. They had come there by bikes which means they’re most likely local.

There’s a muslim couple carrying big bags and arguing about something. They had just been to a mall and probably bought a few new clothes. A man with a backpack walked by – he’s definitely a tourist slowly looking around, taking it all in, enjoying the old city of Strasbourg.

After that we went to Geneva and Zurich, then Salzburg, Vienna and Budapest. And every city gave me an opportunity to find a quiet place to work while observing people and enjoying local cappuccino or a glass of wine.

22053071_10155717220076613_1973212020_nHave you ever thought why we love to watch other people so much? What is it about seeing them interact with each other that fascinates us so much? It’s incredibly interesting! It’s like real life TV. And every person has a story to tell.

Next time you’re traveling, try not to rush from one landmark to another with a camera, but stop somewhere and simply observe people. Give them a chance to share their stories with you. You will be surprised how much you can learn from and get inspired by those stories. Your life will become richer, deeper and much more interesting.

Now it’s your turn. Tell me, do you travel fast or slowly? What do you like to do the most when you’re in a new place?

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My friend Maia spotted me with a camera in a cafe in Zurich.

Happy Women’s Day!

It’s an International Women’s Day today. Did you know? The world is celebrating all women, not just mothers, and it’s a great thing. No offense to you, guys. Men are very important, but we’ve known that already, right? The majority of cultures in the world are patriarchal, so men established their influence and importance long time ago. Although, women started defending their rights only in the past few decades.

I wish all women to believe in their great potential, wonderful gifts and talents, abilities and strengths. I wish us all to unleash our creativity, use our potential and do our best to change this world for better. Steve Jobs said that only those who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do. I believe we can, ladies! Let’s do it!

I wish all men to appreciate their women, see their wonderfulness, and regularly tell them about it. Let her blossom! If your woman flourishes, your life will change, and your success will soar! I dare you to try.

7 Best Winter Activities

“Winter is coming!” – this is the phrase they have been saying in Games of Thrones for 5 seasons and finally “Winter is here!” Well, it’s been here for more than a month already, but I got to write this post only now.

Winter is one of my favorite seasons. Other favorites are spring and summer, but winter is probably the most fun. Christmas and New Year is in winter, my birthday is in winter, and skiing is in winter!

So, let’s start the list:

  1. The very first and most fun activity for me is downhill skiing. Do you like freedom and elegance? Put on a pair of skis and prepare to fly! The excitement of speed and the elegance of flight is what attracts me in this sport.
  2. Some of you will argue with me and say that snowboarding is better. I would just say, it’s also fun but it’s different. Tastes differ, so if you prefer snowboarding, go for it!
  3. In the previous post I talked about running in cold weather. Believe me, it’s much more fun than you might think. It’s challenging and refreshing, and the feeling after the run is incomparable!
  4. Do you like ice-skating? I love it! This is another activity that is beautiful and elegant. It’s like dancing on ice, what can be more graceful?
  5. If you have hills in your town, go sledging with your child or with your friends. I don’t think there’s any age limit for that even though it’s considered for children. We’re all kids in our own way.
  6. Are you fond of fishing? If yes, then it’s the best time for you to go ice-fishing. This is one thing I could never understand, but I know a lot of people love it.
  7. And if you are not that much into outdoors, you can just curl up on a couch with a great book and a cup of hot chocolate. Isn’t that one of the best things about winter? Another variation of this would be a good movie with friends or even by yourself.

The most important aspect of all these activities is that you enjoy them. If it’s not fun, it’s not worth it. Life is full of amazing wonderful moments, and we should cherish each one of them.

Challenges Can Be Fun!

Don’t you just love  challenges? Life would be so boring without having to overcome obstacles and coming up with creative ways of solving problems. Think about your favorite movies and books. Every hero in a great story has to go through hardships and endure all kinds of difficulties to finally achieve the ultimate goal of their life.

Did you know that it costs about $60,000 to climb Mount Everest? It’s deadly dangerous too. And still there are lots of people every year that want to challenge themselves to that. Why? I think it’s in our nature to always strive for the heights, to have a constant desire for growth. And there is usually no growth without tests and trials.

Don’t be afraid of challenges. Embrace them. Understand them. Overcome them. Use them for your growth and future success. They are for sure our blessings in disguise!

What to Do At The Airport

img_0439Have you ever been stuck at the airport for more than 3 hours? When it’s only a 3-hour layover, it’s nothing. By the time you get from one terminal to another (or just from one part of the airport to another), go through the security check and find your gate, it could easily take 2 and a half hours.

Although, if you have to wait for 5 to 8 hours, it could get really boring.

Here’s what I usually do:
1. First, I need to find my gate and sort of understand the direction that I will have to go as soon as it’s time. It’s important to have an idea how long it will take me to get there from different parts of the airport.
2. Then, if I have more than 5 hours to kill, I like to find a nice comfortable place to sit or even lie down. In Amsterdam they have reclining chairs for that in different areas of the airport. It could be a bean bag chair or just a soft nice couch, or an armchair.
3. If I am really tired I try to take a nap but put my carry-on or my purse under my head, like a pillow. In this case nobody will steal it from you.
4. After resting for some time, it’s time to look around. I prefer to go to the book shop or a souvenir store. In a book shop you can just take a book and dive into at least a few pages. You don’t even have to buy a book, just kind of get an idea what you would want to read in the future. I usually download my books to my awesome little Kindle Paperwhite.
5. And all souvenir stores can tell you so much about the culture of the country you’re in, that it’s worth spending at least half an hour there.
6. And the last thing I like to do before actually going to my gate is find a nice inexpensive café and have tea or even a meal there. You can order something familiar or try authentic national food. I am usually not a big risk taker when it comes to food, so I often get a sandwich and a drink.
7. Of course, my favorite thing to do at the airport is read. It’s one of those few opportunities to dive into the book without feeling guilty because you need to get back to work. I read while sitting ata cafĂ©, resting on a comfy chair or just waiting for my flight at the gate.

So, this is my routine. What do you usually do? Could you share some tips?

Victory or Loss – How Can You Know?

What is a victory for you? Sometimes what we think is a win turns out to be a loss. And at the same time, what we consider a loss is actually a wonderful thing and should be perceived as a victory.

There were so many times in my life when something sad and painful led to incredible consequences. We can’t see the future, that’s why our normal reaction to losses is frustration. Although, if we exercise our ability to think a few steps ahead, we could spare ourselves a few moments of anxiety and disappointment.

Not every loss is a loss, and not every win is a win. They might look like that at first, but just wait and see.

Don’t be in a hurry to make conclusions about everything that happens in your life. Every cloud has a silver lining, and hope is a wonderful thing!